Healing From Halfway Across The World

An EFT story by Jo Hainsworth

From Betty:

After one of my free Creative Language with EFT teleclasses, I got an e-mail that brought me to tears. Jo Hainsworth of New Zealand had told me she would write an article about the healing breakthrough she had in the class, and the story she tells is beautiful and moving.

It suddenly hit me how amazing it is that we can connect through EFT around the world. I'm in awe of the miracle that I can offer a little free teleclass sitting here in Vermont, USA, and someone can reap such benefits all the way across the planet in New Zealand. It is such an honor to be a part of all this!

Thank you, Jo, for inspiring us all. Healing is possible and we have more opportunities than ever before to accomplish this healing in our lives.

from Jo Hainsworth, Self Healing Portal:

HEALING MY 15-YEAR-OLD SELF - SHE JUST NEEDED TO BE ACKNOWLEDGED

I've been doing a lot of EFT over the last two years since I first learnt it, and have really moved mountains in my life. I've literally gone from being crippled by fear I didn't even know I had and being chronically ill, to living a joy filled life with freedom I never would have imagined. And yet there are still a couple of long term issues that just haven't seemed to want to budge, no matter how much attention I gave them.

I recently listened to Betty's fantastic teleclass "Creative Language with EFT" and it resulted in a really big shift for me, and a major learning point.

I have worked a lot with my inner child at various ages, working through traumas and unresolved emotions, coming to peace on so many issues. I've learnt a skill called Focusing and combine that with the EFT, and over time have learnt to bring empathy to myself and truly listen to what the hurt parts inside me have to say. And yet I still had these two "stubborn" issues!!!

While tapping with Betty's Creative Language teleclass, suddenly I found tears coming to my eyes, and a sense that the wounded 15 year old inside of me had finally been reached, after trying so hard for so long. I simply stayed with the tapping and let whatever feelings needed to come up, and revelled in the contact with that hurt young woman inside of me. More tears, and more openings, as I tapped my way through the teleclass.

The following day I reflected on what had happened and it was suddenly so clear to me that any communication is about all the parties, and is about an exchange of listening and talking, in whatever way is most appropriate for the particular conversation. I realised that there has been something really big lacking from my communication with my inner 15 year old, despite my intending to bring compassion, empathy and patience to the process for as long as it was needed. It's like the equivalent of me having been patiently sitting outside the bedroom door of an actual 15 year old, assuring her I love her and accept however it is that she's feeling, and quietly waiting with empathy for her to be ready to speak. I've long had a sense that she wanted to, but that something was holding her back, most likely something preventing her from trusting me enough to open up.

I realised that what happened with the teleclass is that my inner 15 year old has been waiting all this time to hear phrases that she never heard from any of the adults in her life. She's been waiting, not for me to listen patiently for even longer, but for me to speak! She's been waiting for me to really connect with her and touch her heart with my understanding of how difficult it was for her, and how difficult it now is for her to open up and speak. She's been waiting to be respected and honoured for all that she went through. And while it's been my intention to convey all that through the patient holding a space in which she can talk, she wasn't able to truly trust where I was coming from, until she heard the words she so badly needed to hear.

It seems obvious now. Listening is so very important, but it's not the only aspect of communication. Just as we may sometimes need to talk more in a conversation with an actual teenager, sometimes we may need to take more initiative with our inner teenager, communicate to her in words while we tap, and allow her to simply feel instead of being expected to respond in words when she isn't yet ready to.

Wow!!! If you haven't listened to this teleclass yet, I seriously recommend you download it from Betty's homepage and tap your way to better communication with those hurting places inside you that maybe don't just need you to listen, and instead so desperately need to hear words they've been waiting to hear so long.

With much gratitude to Betty and her work.

Jo Hainsworth