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Originally published in the Rising Sun EFT Newsletter, July 4, 2011

“Jessica” came to me for weigh and eating issues. She had been working with a book on ending food addiction (author: Kay Sheppard) and had determined that one of the emotional drivers for her was, as she put it, “Not-Good-Enough Pain.”

Because I was in the process of preparing to teach EFT Levels 1-2, I was especially aware of the basic core concepts. So I talked with Jessica about how “not good enough” was like a big forest with many individual trees (specific events) or like a tabletop, with many legs supporting that table. Would she be open to working with some specific events from the past in order to bring healing to this core belief? She agreed.

We had already done some tapping for the emotions around this. I then asked her to close her eyes and tune in to that “not good enough” feeling. “Just let your mind be open to finding one of the early times that you felt this. What other time does this feeling remind you of?” She said, “I don’t know why this is coming up, but I just remembered being on the monkey bars on the playground, I was probably about 5 years old, and these mean boys came up and made fun of me. They called me, “Little Miss Piggy, Pig Nose.” She was amazed to find tears coming.

People are often surprised at how much pain can still be in these seemingly insignificant childhood memories. I asked Jessica to make a small movie of this event — how long would it be? Only a few minutes. I asked her the title. She said, “Little Miss Piggy, Pig Nose.” The title was a 10 in intensity for her, so we began by simply tapping for the title:

Even though I have this “Little Miss Piggy, Pig Nose” movie, I love and accept myself
Even though I have this “Little Miss Piggy, Pig Nose” movie, I love and accept my little girl self — that really hurt my feelings…

It took several rounds of tapping for “this ‘Little Miss Piggy, Pig Nose’ movie,”, but the intensity dramatically released, from a 10 to a 4 to a 2.

I then asked Jessica to narrate the movie, beginning before the upsetting part. “I’m climbing on the monkey bars… I’m swinging from my arms… I’m having a good time… now I see the mean boy coming…he’s walking over with his friends.” I stopped her — “Any intensity?” Surprisingsly, she said, “No!”

She continued. “Now he’s coming over and saying to his friend, ‘hey look, there’s Little Miss Piggy Pig Nose!” I stopped her again — “Any intensity?” “No!”

“So what happens next?” I asked. Jessica then said something totally unexpected: “Well, I just keep swinging and I tell them that they’re just stupid boys and that I don’t care what they say! And I laugh at them!” We both laughed at the conviction in her voice — she knew they were acting stupid and that it was not about her! She said, “I know that’s not what really happened, but that’s what I see in my movie now. All I can do is laugh at them. How stupid those dumb boys were!”

Apparently our work together on the title alone had completely cleared the trauma. I realized that the title she had chosen was the crescendo of the event. That might not always be a good idea, but in this case, it worked wonders. Those nasty words, which had hurt her so much as a little child, had been completely neutralized and she could see the whole thing clearly and not take it personally anymore.

Just to be safe, I had Jessica rewind and run the old movie in her mind, trying to stay with the scenario as it had really happened. She found that hard to do! She had trouble even imagining it and couldn’t get back any pain — even though 15 minutes before, she had been in tears.

We ended with a “power tapping” for the little girl inside her.

Even though those boys called me that, I don’t care! They’re just stupid boys!

As we tapped the points with “I don’t care!” and “They’re just stupid!” Jessica was grinning. It felt great to empower her inner child to throw off the insult and put those boys in their place.

My hope is that this healing result will generalize into other places where Jessica felt put down or insulted with regard to her appearance. I will update with a report from her soon.

from the Rising Sun EFT newsletter - November 21, 2010

This is the time of year when sneezes and sniffles abound and we are all probably exposed to cold viruses daily. Our best defense is, of course, a healthy immune system. I’ve just learned something fascinating about the immune system that confirms a practice I’ve been doing with EFT for years.

Whenever I get the first traces of cold symptoms, such as sneezing, coughing, or runny nose, I immediately start tapping like this -

Setup:

Even though I have this sneezing/coughing/runny nose, I love and accept my body…

Even though I have these symptoms, I appreciate my powerful immune system… these symptoms are signals that my immune system is working hard to ward off this cold.

Even though I have these symptoms, I AM NOT GETTING A COLD… these are messages from my immune system that it is getting rid of the cold… I AM NOT GETTING A COLD!

Reminder phrases:

This sneezing… this coughing… this runny nose… thank you, immune system, for working so hard… this sneezing (etc.)… signs that my immune system is getting rid of this cold… I’m NOT getting a cold.

I came up with the wording because I realized the human tendency to think negatively. How many times have you said, “Ah-choo! Darn, I must be getting a cold.” And so I decided to interpret the symptoms as signs that I was NOT getting the cold and affirm this desired outcome — rather than giving my system the message that I thought I was getting a cold.

Recently I was listening to an episode of NPR’s Fresh Air featuring Jennifer Ackerman, the author of a new book called, Ah-Choo - The Uncommon Life of Your Common Cold.

She explained a “relatively new insight:”

“People thought that the miseries of the cold were really the upshot of the destructive effect of the virus itself on our cells… But it turns out that the common cold viruses don’t really do any direct damage to our cells, that cold
symptoms result from the body’s response to the intruders… the body responds the presence of the virus by generating inflammatory agents that inflame the body cells and tissues, giving us that runny nose and the cough…”

Isn’t it wonderful when science confirms something that we’ve picked up intuitively, or even just whimsically imagined?

The best news is that this process works so well. I’ve had many fewer colds. Sometimes years go by without even one. As epigeneticist Dr. Bruce Lipton says, our cells are responsive to their environment — and one of the most
important aspects of our cells’ environment is the messages generated by our beliefs, thoughts, and feelings.

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from The Rising Sun EFT Group, May 2010

EFT IN A WOMEN’S GROUP

A few weeks ago, I was asked to do an EFT workshop for a women’s group. This is a small group of 6 women who are very open with each other and very bonded. I thought we would start with a simple demonstration — let everyone rate their current feeling of “stress” and experience the change a few rounds of tapping might make.

But when we went around the circle, the “stress” each person wanted to address was a huge life issue. “My divorce” … “my confidence problem”…”the tension with my stepchildren”…”my financial challenge”… Wow. They were all starting out with big global problems.

I could have said, “no, for a beginning demonstration we need to keep it simpler — just rate the constriction in your breathing!” But I sensed how much they had already talked about these problems with each other and sincerely wanted to go deeply today with EFT. On the other hand, each of these problems was far too global to tap for as such. What I decided to do was this:

“So each of you has a big life issue to work on. What I’d like you to do is close your eyes… and just notice what is happening in your body when you think about that issue. Notice very specifically how your body holds this stress. And then rate that sensation on a 0-10 scale. For instance, if your shoulders are tight, is that feeling low, medium, or high?”

This time when we went around the room, we had some great specific information. The weight on the chest an 8, the butterflies in the stomach a 6, etc. We did a round of tapping just to show them EFT and, in every case, there was a sense of relief and lower numbers on the physical level. The language I used was both global and specific: “Even though I have this issue… and I feel the stress as [body sensation]…”

I then offered a few rounds of individual tapping to each person, with everyone else borrowing benefits. Because they were so bonded and knew each other’s challenges, there was a strong feeling of emotional connection in the room and, at times, tears. So much healing took place in two hours! All I did was to ask each person what was coming up with the tapping and, “what does this remind you of?”

- The woman with the confidence challenge stated matter-of-factly that her father had frequently put her down, but being a very spiritual person, she had forgiven him. I guided: “Even though I’ve forgiven him, the truth is, it really hurt a lot to be put down like that… by my father who should have loved me…” Tears came as this opened up a whole level of denied pain. We tapped for all the pain she hadn’t even realized was there. The heavy weight on her chest went to zero and she said she felt like a million dollars!

- The woman with the financial challenge had a forgotten childhood memory pop into her mind: sitting in the dark because the electricity was cut off when her family couldn’t pay the bill. She realized that this was the huge well of fear and shame that was coming up into the present situation. More healing with EFT.

- The woman who had been in tears when she spoke of the stepchildren challenge never could get the pain back after the first round of tapping! She kept smiling and saying, “I don’t know what happened, but all that doesn’t bother me now!”

I think this was one of the most profound EFT experiences I have had in a group. The openness and emotional connection of the women meant that even a brief workshop could go very deeply and accomplish some profound healing. And they all learned enough EFT to continue with it as a group or on their own.

from The Rising Sun EFT Newsletter, February 2010

AN EFT TIP: EFT FOR ANGER

Recently, anger issues have come up both for myself and for some clients, so I’d like to share with you one of my favorite approaches with anger.

I believe that anger has meaning and purpose. It is a message from our system that something is wrong, that we are being mistreated, and its purpose is to get us to do something about it. We may need to set a boundary, communicate our feelings, or distance from a toxic situation. There is a lot of power in anger. Here are some of the ways I might address anger:

- Even though I think I shouldn’t feel so angry because I’m a good and kind person, the truth is, this is just how I feel! I’m furious!

- Even though I’m really angry, I can be with this anger and let it out! Let these feelings safely flow and have my say.
(tapping while venting is great stuff — tap the points and say what you need to say, with vehemence!)

- Even though I’m so angry, the truth is, there’s a lot of power in this emotion… I want to keep the power as I let go of the poison. I want to use this power for clarity and strength and setting clear boundaries…doing what is needed… and let go of the intensity & frustration, the murderous rage, the poison.

It really works! As the angry intensity subsides, I usually feel more empowered, clear and strong, often with a good idea of what I need to do.

Love,
Betty

The Rising Sun EFT Newsletter - January 2010

A Happy New Year to you! I wish you many blessings in 2010.

My new year was marked by two things. One, we had a beautiful snowfall here in Burlington, Vermont, the biggest in recorded history, about three feet of feathery snow (.9 meter). I love walking in the woods, where it is still a fairyland. We’re in the Champlain Valley between two mountain ranges, and the snow-capped mountains are a sight to behold.

Two: 2010 is ushering in our new website, www.EFTfree.net, an inspired project which was created in just three weeks!

A PUBLIC LIBRARY OF EFT RESOURCES

Since childhood, I have always loved public libraries. So much information at your fingertips and free access to all. When Gary Craig announced his retirement and the end of emofree.com, I was dismayed to think that we were losing the “public library of EFT” that Gary’s website had always been for me. My close friends and colleagues Jade Barbee, Carna Zacharias-Miller, Lynne Shaner and I begun discussing what we could do. The result is a not-for-profit, non-commercial, educational web resource designed to share the healing art of EFT: http://www.EFTfree.net.

I know that some of you on the Rising Sun EFT Group Newsletter have already visited www.EFTfree.net. We’ve had a week and a half to see how it’s going, and the responses have been overwhelmingly enthusiastic. This encourages us that our vision is shared and that this is something that is needed. If you haven’t yet taken a look, I’d love to invite you to do so.

ARTICLES TO YOUR INBOX

So many people wrote to me about the loss they were feeling with regard to Gary’s newsletter. Wasn’t it great to get fresh EFT information through those articles several times a week? I do miss it. What we’re offering through www.EFTfree.net is the option of signing up for our RSS feed. A couple of new EFT articles will be delivered to you in an e-mail once or twice a week (no more — no overwhelm, we promise.)

ARTICLES ARCHIVE

As the site grows we envision www.EFTfree.net to be a place to go to get ideas, find examples or look for answers to the question, “does it work for my issue?”

A CALL FOR ARTICLES

With this in mind, I’m putting out a call to all my friends on the Rising Sun EFT Group — can you contribute an article or two? If you take a look at our Contribute An Article page ( http://www.eftfree.net/contribute/ ), you’ll find that we welcome EFT articles and stories of all kinds. We see this site as a community effort, a place to connect and share. Would you be willing to help develop this resource? Just write up, even briefly, an EFT story, experience, case or idea, and send it our way asap. We would really appreciate it. And although we don’t allow direct promotions, your article always carries a live link to your website (if you have one).

A PLACE TO CONNECT

We’re already feeling the connections as people make a comments on the site (you can comment after any article) and as they join the Facebook fan page and sign up for the newsletter. We have more ideas about how to connect and co-create this valuable resource and we’re always open to your input. The newsletter will keep you informed of developments.

THIS NEW ERA

I spoke with Gary Craig recently. It was good to hear how he is doing. Much of what he told me is the same that he told Gary Williams on the Tribute interview here:

http://emotionalfreedomtechniques.bravehost.com/gary_craig_tribute_welcome.php

(Gary Williams is doing something really special with this tribute, by the way, and I’m enjoying the interviews.)

Gary Craig says that he is interested in seeing what develops in the EFT world, but that he truly does not want to be involved. His archives may or may not be available in the future — there is still no answer to that question. But as he told me, there is certainly room for a whole new library of EFT articles and resources. I hope there will be many of these. We’re happy that we can contribute one with our offering of www.EFTfree.net.

with love,
Betty

Published in the Rising Sun EFT Group Newsletter 12-17-09

I was speechless when I received the announcement of Gary Craig’s retirement a few days ago. This is truly earthshaking news for the EFT community. I’m sure we are all sending healing energy to Gary for the best recovery from his heart attack. Perhaps we can all tap healing energy towards him, as we know that surrogate tapping is powerful.

If anyone deserves all the rest, freedom and ease of retirement, it is Gary Craig. The immensity of the gift of EFT that he has given the world can never be acknowledged and appreciated enough. He has worked tirelessly on behalf of EFT for so long. During this time, we have been blessed with Gary’s gift of such an amazing wealth of free or low-cost EFT resources. For me, the DVDs and the website, especially the article archives on the website, have been like the backbone of EFT and I will miss them greatly. It is a huge loss that these resources will also be coming to a close. Many are suggesting that the article archive be maintained in some form, so I hope that will be considered.

I’ve been thinking a lot about Gary and would like to share with you my favorite story about him. I first met Gary in 2001 at a workshop he did in Flagstaff, Arizona. This is one of the workshops that is on the second DVD set, and it was a marvelous experience. At that time, there were about 180 of us in attendance and, being a little shy, I was of course lost in the crowd. But soon thereafter, Gary put out an invitation — he wanted to find 12-15 people to come out to his home at The Sea Ranch, CA, and spend a week training in EFT with him. I was on the phone with him in seconds! Thus, my dear friend Carolyn Lewis and I ended up in that small group training.

So my first real connection with Gary was this experience of his incredible generosity. I was so blown away, I was pinching myself, was it a dream? All we had to do was get there and pay for lodging in the several vacation houses he rented for the event, and he would give us a week of his time. Wow.

As plans were made, it appeared that we would have the option of doing our own cooking. My friend and I prefer vegetarian, so I found myself asking Gary Craig if there was anywhere we’d be able to get tofu! He didn’t know and of course that was fine. On the day we arrived, Gary met us and took Carolyn and me to the house where we would be staying. There was a beautiful bouquet of rhododendron on the table, picked from Gary’s own yard. The refrigerator was already stocked with supplies — including tofu! I will never forget that. How sweet and thoughtful. Gary Craig, who is really not a tofu kind of guy, had gone out of his way to make sure we had our tofu.

It has been quite a ride, as Gary said in his announcement. None of us knew in 2001 that EFT would grow to what it is today. This growth is a wonderful thing and, at the same time, it has presented huge challenges. I wish to honor Gary Craig and thank him from the bottom of my heart. While I am sad to reach the end of this era, I respect his decision to step down and wish him all good things in his well-deserved retirement. We must all do our best to be good stewards of EFT and carry it into the future with integrity, skill and love. I will always acknowledge where I come from as an EFT practitioner and will always appreciate Gary Craig.

Originally published in the Rising Sun EFT Newsletter, Nov. 19, 2009

Inner Theater is a visual approach with EFT that has been developing in
my work in collaboration with Jade Barbee. One of the things that
has come out of our Inner Theater approach is a renewed awareness
of the value of staying very present and responding moment-by-moment
in an EFT session. For the client, this is an experience of being listened to
very deeply, and that alone is healing. For the one guiding the tapping,
it helps us to really trust the healing process that is unfolding and not to
miss any healing opportunities.

A simple technique that Jade & I call “the language of invitation”
is so effective that I now use it in almost every session. Here’s an
example.

Recently a man was tuning in to the look of annoyance on his
mother’s face whenever he, as a child, needed something. We
started tapping the Karate Chop spot:

“Even though I see my mother’s face… and she looks so annoyed…
and that makes me feel___ (what?)” (you simply leave a blank to be
filled in).

He said, “That makes me feel like I’m a bother to her, a pest.”

“And even though I feel like a pest, a bother and___ (what else?)”

He filled in, “Like my needs aren’t important, only her needs
matter, mine don’t… and she wishes she could brush me off like a
fly.”

“And even though she wants to brush me off like a fly, and that
makes me feel_______ (what?)”

“Ashamed. Embarrassed. Like I wish I could disappear.”

“Even though I see her annoyed expression and I have all those
feelings about it, I love and accept my young self… and it’s time
to bring some healing to this.”

You then tap the points for all the feelings that have come up,
“feeling like a pest, my needs aren’t important, feeling
embarrassed and ashamed,” etc. While going through the points,
you can use the invitation technique again:
“Ashamed… embarrassed… and ____ (what else?)”

This simple invitation to fill in the blanks allows us to pay
attention to many nuances that might have been missed. The
subconscious only has to be invited and it will bring up more
and more of what needs healing. Making the invitations while
tapping works especially well. As we’re opening the energy
system with tapping, we’re connecting very directly with the
feelings that have been held in the body and literally tapping
into the body’s healing wisdom.
For more on the Inner Theater approach, please visit www.innertheater.net

Originally published in the Rising Sun EFT Newsletter 10-18-09.

In two recent sessions, I was privileged to work with adults who still needed some healing for the loss of a parent in early childhood. In both cases, we used an Inner Theater approach (engaging the imagination) to create a safe place within, and then we went back in time to find the little girl or little boy they had been.

So much of this healing work was about presence and witnessing and being with the child. Bits and pieces came, such as the confusion and fear around the open coffin, the weirdness of being told, “just go out and play” or “don’t touch the flowers,” and the way no one really talked to the child about what had happened. In this part of the sessions, I found that the phrase, “It’s time to bring healing to this” really helped with the tapping.

“Even though I don’t understand… and I’m really scared…. it’s time to bring healing to this…”

“Even though I feel so confused… what does all this mean?…. it’s time to bring healing to this…”

“Even though no one’s paying attention to me… no one knows how lost and scared I feel… it’s time to bring healing to this.”

As we got further, feelings of loss and grief began to emerge. Especially in past generations, people haven’t realized that children have the full range of human emotions. It wasn’t recognized that even young children go through a grief process — children often got no support or help with grieving. So when we reach back in time to bring in healing, there will be grieving to do that couldn’t be done at the time.

What was most healing here was for the adult self to simply be with the child self and acknowledge the child’s feelings. In this case, the EFT phrase that helped the most was one I learned from my friend Jade Barbee: “I can let these feelings safely flow.”

“Even though there is so much sadness, I can let these feelings safely flow….”

“Even though I miss ______ so much, I can let these feelings safely flow…”

“Even though my heart is broken, that’s just how I feel… I can let this feeling flow…”

“Even though I could just cry and cry, I can let these feelings safely flow… it’s all for healing now.”

Grieving cannot be short-cut or short-changed. It is a process and in order to move through grief, we do need to let feelings flow. In these cases, it was moving to see how the adult self could reach out to the child self and give him or her what was needed — listening, presence, support and permission to feel. In both cases, we brought the child into the inner safe place. As we continued tapping, and the feelings did flow, there was a great sense of relief that the child was not alone anymore and that the loss could finally be expressed and have a chance to heal.

Very beautifully, in both cases, the parent who had died appeared in the safe place to join the adult and child parts and reassure them. An inner reconnection took place that felt very healing. I actually didn’t suggest this — it happened spontaneously. And since what happens in the inner world is very real on the feeling level, these reconnections brought a new sense of completion and peace. I held these sessions with care and I feel honored to have been a part of these very tender healing journeys.

from the Rising Sun EFT Group Newsletter, August 29, 2009

This is a fascinating article from Anita Colucci of Italy. It is a beautiful example of how combining EFT with the imagination (visualization) can be so very effective. Thanks so much for sharing this, Anita.

VISUALIZATION BRINGS THE SWEET SMELL OF SUCCESS

Italian EFT practitioner Anita Colucci describes how a client combined EFT with a strong visualisation of sunflower scent and avoided a surgical procedure.

by Anita Colucci, info@eftitaly.it

One day the client, Anna, came to me very scared and almost in tears. Her left nostril was noticeably closed as it had been for months. She had adhesions to the bone of the nose and the air could not go through.

The doctor had just informed her that in order to re-establish correct breathing she had to be operated on very soon.

Anna was terrified.

We immediately started a tapping session with visualisation.

I asked the name of her favourite flower and told her to try to see it by imaging of full-throated smelling it and repeat:

“I feel the smell…I can smell it all the way…the smell comes into my lungs…I can feel the smell coming up my nose…”

Since we only had 20 minutes, I told her to repeat this exercise at home 3-4 times a day.

The following day, Anna informed me that a drop of blood had painlessly come out from her nose.

Anna continued to repeat the exercise for a week before meeting with me again. The nostril was noticeably open and she could breathe almost completely.

After a few days, everything was back to normal!

We went to see her doctor together to show him the *miracle* achieved through EFT…the surgery was no longer necessary!

I learned afterward that the flower chosen by Anna was the sunflower. When she realised that this flower in reality has a very bad smell, it was already all over!

Later still Anna told me that her left nostril had started to close with the beginning of disagreements regarding the moral behaviour of a woman in her family…(something smells fishy…)

Perhaps Anna wanted to smell it no more…

In response, Anna said: “Thanks Anita for having released me from this problem and from the risk of a surgery. I have learnt EFT and now I practise it daily for any circumstance and my life has clearly improved.”

Anita Colucci 3 Level EFT & MATRIX REIMPRINTING certified Practitioner
www.eftitaly.it

published in the Rising Sun EFT Group Newsletter, August 2009
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This guest article is by Carna Zacharias-Miller. Carna is one of the most skilled and sensitive EFTers I know when it comes to working with the Inner Child. She and I both value this work very much, as a matter of fact we have a Facebook group called Healing The Inner Child with EFT. If you’re on FB, just search for that and join us! Carna has also developed a wonderful new approach called Magical EFT, which I love. More on Magical EFT soon.

Thanks so much, Carna, for this moving article.

From Carna Zacharias Miller
www.missingmother.com & www.MagicalEFT.com

Hi Betty,
 
I have been working with lots of inner babies lately, so I wrote this up. Thank you!
 
HEALING THE INNER BABY WITH EFT
 
While I am always focused on the young self when I am working on childhood trauma with EFT, I recently realized that I am very much tuned in to the baby self. It is absolutely amazing how alive these inner babies are, how this very early time can influence a whole life, and how EFT can heal a bad start into life in a profound way.
 

When I inquire about their childhood, clients often start talking about the time when they were toddlers. However, I like to guide them back right to the early stages of their existence. If there was a disconnection from the mother, it almost always started right in the beginning. I call this timeframe “Conception/Pregnancy/Birth”. Of course, there are usually no conscious memories, but there are always powerful emotions – often triggered by the things our parents told us.

 
Conception issues are not so much sexual (although they can be), but circumstances around that moment in time, like illness of the mother, or absence of the father. In my experience, the two most painful  and far-reaching issues are: “I was not wanted”, and “I was just a girl, they really wanted a boy”. The knowledge or just the inner knowing (parents don’t always tell us directly) of not being wanted always brings up intense emotional pain.
 
Even though my mother thought of abortion when she was pregnant with me, and that makes me feel devastated in the pit of my stomach…
 
Even though I was the 6th child that my father forced on my mother, and she just did her catholic duty, and that makes me feel sad and angry…
 
Being of the “wrong” gender is not really a gender issue. It installs a self-destructive belief system in a girl that often taints her whole life:
 
Even though I am worthless, and there is nothing I can do about that…
Even though I am never good enough, whatever I do
Even though I was a mistake, I was not supposed to be here, and I still don’t know what I am doing here…
 
Moving on to pregnancy and birth, we deal with specific shocking experiences, like dangerous health complications, being pulled out with forceps, or left behind in an incubator. Often, the physical and/or emotional separation from the mother happens right after birth. It is always perceived as heartbreaking abandonment by the mother even if there were rational reasons for it (for example, in my own case it was the outbreak of her schizophrenia).
 
Then we spend loving, caring time with “Baby Anna”, “Baby Molly”, or “Baby Sam” (not real names). That is where the pain, and the hurt, and the desperation, and the anger often come to a peak. Intense loneliness, feeling powerless, hopeless, and a deep yearning for being held and touched are big issues. I believe that it is important to give these babies who were severely emotionally neglected a voice that they did not have when they were actually going through the experience. Once they are allowed to speak their truth through the now adult self, they are ready to be comforted and healed by this adult self.
 
Sometimes I use a little guided imagery to connect to a specific visual and emotional “snapshot” of the baby, and then we tap on every detail that comes up:
 
Even though nobody touches Baby Anne, and she feels desperately lonely in her crib, I am treating this baby with kindness and compassion.
 
Even though nobody even looks at Baby Molly, and nobody picks her up when she is left alone in the bedroom, I give this baby all the love she needs.
 
Even though Baby Sam’s mother yelled at him in the kitchen when he was hungry and crying, I am healing this baby now.
 
One session of EFT (not always tearless…) focused on the inner baby can make a big difference. Usually it is not as dramatic as it was with “Kathy”: After just one session spent with her baby self, she felt great, lost the 10 lbs she always wanted to lose, and found the love of her life. However, most clients feel relief when the baby self has been acknowledged in a loving way, and the adult self is ready to support this tender part with love and compassion.
 
Sometimes, there is a spiritual aspect to this work: Some people have a strong feeling of the radiance, beauty, joy, and unconditional love they experienced before their incarnation. If they find themselves in an environment that is loveless or even hostile, they go through intense, very painful feelings of being trapped in the womb, of fear and regret about coming into the physical world. To lighten up the heavy mood, I sometimes let them tap on: “What was I thinking!”
 
Ultimately, EFT shapes and illuminates our spiritual quest.
 
Carna Zacharias-Miller is a certified EFT practitioner in Tallahassee, Florida.
 
 
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CARNA ZACHARIAS-MILLER
Certified EFT practitioner
www.missingmother.com
www.magicaleft.com
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